We’ve all been there—at the ending of a relationship that’s ripping our heart out.
It has us doing the ugly cry in our bedrooms when no one is looking. It causes us to lose sleep at night because we’re laying in bed trying to figure out what went wrong and what we could have done differently.
There are so many things we can do to heal faster and move on—but often, we don’t. As human beings, we have a tendency to be gluttons for punishment. I mean, we say that’s not what we want but then we engage in behaviors that do just that.~
Most people I work with come to me because they’re struggling with letting go or healing from a past relationship. The pain and sadness they feel having lost someone they truly loved is real. It can be an incredibly raw and agonizing time in their lives and their desire to be able to let go and move forward so that they can find peace and happiness again is so intense, they’re willing to do just about anything.
Except they don’t.
Often, our need for answers or to understand “why” is so pressing and persistent we end up doing things that keep us stuck and bring about even more heartache. These are some things I’ve found are best to avoid when you’re already grieving and longing to move on and feel normal again: