“Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.”
~ Sex and the City
There’s nothing unsexy about a single, available man or woman.
The first thought when I encounter a single person is never, “What’s wrong with them?”
But rather,”Why hasn’t anyone snatched this person up?”
Unfortunately there is still a stigma around the “being single” status, at least for women. Men are not judged as harshly for being single.
A lot of women would agree that being single can make a man even more alluring. The single “bad boy” who can’t be pinned down or tamed by one woman is a hot commodity. He’s always being chased by hordes of ladies wanting to claim the victory of being the one who made him settle down.
Women tend to look at their own single status with a “what’s wrong with me,” attitude which can’t be further from the truth.
Hey ladies, what happened to us being just as alluring, hot and untamable as the single men out there?
I have been unapologetically single since my divorce three years ago. Of course I’ve dated. I’ve dabbled in a few pseudo mini relationships here and there that only amounted to deeper levels of healing. These relationships offered me clarity on where I still need to work on myself.
For me, it’s in the spaces of being totally and completely single without the distraction of someone taking up space in my heart or in my bed that I have felt vibrantly alive, deeply grounded and most aligned with my true essence and style.
There’s a way to wear the “being single” label without shame, embarrassment or the false belief that it makes us look somehow less desirable, less attractive or less powerful.