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TO MY CHILDREN: HERE IS WHO I HOPE I CAN BE FOR YOU

Published by  Elephant Journal ~ February 21, 2016

“When my children remember their childhood, I want only for them to remember that their Mother gave it her all. She worried too much, she failed at times and she did not always get it right, but she tried her hardest to teach them about kindness, love, compassion and honesty. Even if she had to learn it from her own mistakes, she loved them enough to keep going, even when things seemed hopeless, even when life knocked her down. I want them to remember me as the Woman who always got back up.” ~ via Soul-fully Beautiful


I absolutely love this quote. I read it years ago and over the years it’s found it’s way back to me through numerous avenues as if to remind me of what’s important. It definitely reflects who my own mother was to me growing up and the woman I strive to be for my own children.

My mother raised all three of us (my brother, sister and I) to be kind, to be compassionate and to always help other people. She was relentless about teaching us thoughtfulness and always showing our appreciation to anyone who did something for us whether it was giving us a gift, a ride to the baseball field or a compliment.

And like my father, she was passionate and steadfast about honesty. We couldn’t lie to her even if we tried. The woman had a sixth sense that bordered on psychic and I could swear she occupied a third eye that would magically make you blurt out your guilt 30 seconds after you tried to lie to her.

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PRACTICING COMPASSION ON OUR WORST PARENTING DAYS

Published by  Elephant Journal ~ September 19, 2015

My mother once told me that we know who our real friends are because they are the ones who stick around when things get hard.

A lover once told me that we know a relationship is solid—not when things are going great, but when the sh*t  hits the fan—and they are still standing beside us.

Similarly in families, we know our bonds are strong when our life falls apart and they are the first ones at our door, asking for ways to make things hurt less even if the reason we’re hurting is mostly our own fault.

This theme comes up for me daily in parenting.

Sometimes there are days where everything runs smoothly like a well-oiled machine and I feel I’ve got this parenting thing mastered. It’s easy to parent my children when they are being absolutely adorable, playing harmoniously together, going to bed on time and listening to everything I ask them to do.

Yes—this is not the norm, but when it happens, it’s glorious and never to be taken for granted!

Then there are the days when things are so broken that I wonder how I was actually awarded the honor of being the mom of these two small beautiful creatures.

The days when both my kids are cranky from a long day, when one of them is screaming bloody murder for apparently no reason while the other is not listening to a word I say. When they are grabbing toys away from each other, refusing to share and just plain old melting down.

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Parenting With Compassion

Published by Huffington Post ~ July 16, 2015

My mother once told me that you know who your real friends are because they are the ones who stick around when things get hard. A lover I once had told me that you know a relationship is solid not when things are going great, but when the sh** hits the fan and that person is still standing beside you.

Similarly in families, you know your bonds are strong when your life falls apart and they are the first ones at your door, asking for ways to make things hurt less even if the reason you are hurting is mostly your fault.

This theme comes up for me daily in parenting. Sometimes there are days where everything runs smoothly like a well-oiled machine and I feel I’ve got this parenting thing mastered. It’s easy to parent your children when they are being absolutely adorable, playing harmoniously together, going to bed on time and listening to everything you ask them to do. Yes… this is not the norm but when it happens, it’s glorious and never to be taken for granted!

 

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